tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post5733752655014480499..comments2023-10-22T11:45:23.103-04:00Comments on dead baby jokes: poetic justiceUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-42821187921264277442008-03-27T17:04:00.000-04:002008-03-27T17:04:00.000-04:00Ahhh...Poetic Justice the movie. Who DIDN'T love a...Ahhh...Poetic Justice the movie. Who DIDN'T love a gum-smacking, ghetto-gold earring wearing, dookie braided Janet Jackson reading poems written by Maya Angelou? Oh Maya - whya???JW Moxiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16865232770753428076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-17668482744334203092008-03-27T16:48:00.000-04:002008-03-27T16:48:00.000-04:00I find it excruciating when my life is proceeding ...I find it excruciating when my life is proceeding behind closed doors and without my say in the matter. I cannot even imagine how difficult this process would be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-66503142024609859942008-03-26T16:00:00.000-04:002008-03-26T16:00:00.000-04:00I've got nothing good to say that hasn't already b...I've got nothing good to say that hasn't already been said (besides which, I don't know how I'd feel in the situation. And even if I did, I'm not you, sadly for me), <BR/><BR/>BUT<BR/><BR/>If you need someone to lay the smack down, I'm here, anytime and anywhere.Aunt Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12146687582842259611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-45295188109663901782008-03-26T15:01:00.000-04:002008-03-26T15:01:00.000-04:00Hm. Odd.If I calculated correctly, my 5 and a half...Hm. Odd.<BR/>If I calculated correctly, my 5 and a half feet are somewhere in the middle here... but who knows. Those conversions confuse me.Ameliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10483756694695666215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-35789408345665379562008-03-26T13:33:00.000-04:002008-03-26T13:33:00.000-04:00Reading Clarissa's comment makes me feel all warm ...Reading Clarissa's comment makes me feel all warm and fuzzy here. Just sayin'Aureliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13691032415028867902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-34272402273684704842008-03-26T11:56:00.000-04:002008-03-26T11:56:00.000-04:00Oh dear. I hope you find a good middle ground.Oh dear. I hope you find a good middle ground.Magpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15460136246441367993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-37558783830080342172008-03-26T11:35:00.000-04:002008-03-26T11:35:00.000-04:00Being a lifetime member of the vertically challeng...Being a lifetime member of the vertically challenged, checking in at a whopping 5'2" (although in my big hair days I was comfortably 5'5" with an Aqu.a Net assist) I'll add my two cents...I can't imagine not having the decency to at least return your calls or respond to an email. That's just rude.<BR/><BR/>I hope she shows you more respect than that and also that her personality can't be absorbed by your baby:)<BR/><BR/>Thinking of you.k@laklyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05366772609212990882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-55233662527973409552008-03-26T09:46:00.000-04:002008-03-26T09:46:00.000-04:00I can kind of understand why she might be a little...I can kind of understand why she might be a little shy at this point. I might be hesitant to become too emotionally involved with the intended parents until I could share some good news with them. It just sounds like a lot of pressure.<BR/><BR/>And, well, I would also be a little squeamish about a non-doctor/nurse stranger being present when things are being inserted into my vagina. But dates? That doesn't seem like difficult information to communicate.<BR/><BR/>Then again, I would be screened out immediately if I were to volunteer to be a surrogate, so maybe I'm not the best person to offer a perspective on this.<BR/><BR/>At any rate, I hope you can ease into a comfortable relationship with her soon. And I really hope the universe finds someone else to taunt.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-4876110685204433542008-03-25T22:53:00.000-04:002008-03-25T22:53:00.000-04:00Ahh, I'm an outlier again, with Antigone at 5'9"....Ahh, I'm an outlier again, with Antigone at 5'9". <BR/><BR/>I would be a bit uncomfortable with reticence on the part of the surrogate, but I've become very skeptical of everything and most people these days. I assume there is some sort of contract laying out specifics of who gets to attend which appointments, what information is shared and when it is shared, etc. Niobe, as the genetic parent, I would assume you would have the choice to go to appointments or not, but the surrogate would have less say in that? (I'm sorry if I've chosen words poorly, I don't mean to be offensive to the rights of surrogates or those who are pursuing surrogacy. Are there terms I'm missing?)<BR/><BR/>I don't know how these things work; hope it's okay to put in my two cents. I know I would be going nuts not knowing, but there is something to be said for trying to *not* be too involved in the process. Whatever makes it easier on the psyche. You are in my thoughts.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03812637630030228124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-28951361748942140032008-03-25T22:44:00.000-04:002008-03-25T22:44:00.000-04:00As others have said, it seems a little unreasonabl...As others have said, it seems a little unreasonable for her to not keep you up to date. Glad you see the humour.<BR/><BR/>At almost 5'3' I am glad to know I am in good company in shortsville.moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-79607972505258266832008-03-25T21:56:00.000-04:002008-03-25T21:56:00.000-04:00I hope you can get some answers sometime soon. It...I hope you can get some answers sometime soon. It would be nice to just be able to plan a little bit. I'm sure it's incredibly difficult for you to NOT know anything. <BR/><BR/>Thinking of you!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00912286121374215944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-82815039119264180682008-03-25T21:40:00.000-04:002008-03-25T21:40:00.000-04:00Oy is just about all I have on this.But I am getti...Oy is just about all I have on this.<BR/><BR/>But I am getting a feeling we could have ourselves a nice short blogger get-together. And we could take turns sitting on a bar stool and looking down at everyone else.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-68632172297150483802008-03-25T20:47:00.000-04:002008-03-25T20:47:00.000-04:00I have to agree with Which Box? that maybe it is h...I have to agree with Which Box? that maybe it is her trying to be in control. I hope you can get answers from someone. Is there an agency you are working with that you can call with these questions?CLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08030787972960755420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-91357536094711973842008-03-25T19:33:00.000-04:002008-03-25T19:33:00.000-04:00Yow. That really sucks, Niobe. The relationship wi...Yow. That really sucks, Niobe. <BR/>The relationship with your surrogate should be one of openness and communication. I know you have said that you do not want to be involved too much but for HER to be so out of touch with you isn't ok. Like, not her baby, so what does she have to keep to herself about? It is all your business....<BR/>Hoping for you that part gets worked out in a positive way soon.<BR/><BR/>Thinking of you. And, I am just going to put this out there...I have no doubts that this will work with your current surrogate, but if, for some unforseen reason, things fall apart...you know where to find me...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-65439624122244900442008-03-25T18:28:00.000-04:002008-03-25T18:28:00.000-04:00It hardly seems fair of her to withhold communiati...It hardly seems fair of her to withhold communiation from you; it would be nice to at least have the little bit of information you are requesting. I agree with Which Box, it seems perhaps some kind of control issue on her side. At least, that is now I would view it.Ahuva Batyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17432567017520114856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-88606315995578759312008-03-25T17:39:00.000-04:002008-03-25T17:39:00.000-04:00Oh, that would make me so crazy! I hope all goes ...Oh, that would make me so crazy! I hope all goes well for you...the dragonflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00910969956758977269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-77501096726149603662008-03-25T17:28:00.000-04:002008-03-25T17:28:00.000-04:00Niobe: 5'2" isn't nearly short enough for me to ne...Niobe: 5'2" isn't nearly short enough for me to need to look down....I can almost share your advantage; although my hips aren't very girlish anymore.Beruriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07171541078529309991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-26215647438831160992008-03-25T17:12:00.000-04:002008-03-25T17:12:00.000-04:00Oh, isn't that the way it goes? I wonder what her...Oh, isn't that the way it goes? <BR/><BR/>I wonder what her resistance is? A measure of her control? has she been a surrogate before, so this is old hat to her? Odd.Which Boxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14223363075283823935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-75006308803802237002008-03-25T16:54:00.000-04:002008-03-25T16:54:00.000-04:00FET as opposed to Boba Fett.I'm 5'9" and am gettin...FET as opposed to Boba Fett.<BR/><BR/>I'm 5'9" and am getting fat. No children's clothes for me (in my closet or in the nursery).Antigonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09206205690072218302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-3600147943805407492008-03-25T15:29:00.000-04:002008-03-25T15:29:00.000-04:00Christine: Sorry. I sometimes forget that not ev...<B>Christine</B>: Sorry. I sometimes forget that not everyone is up on all the ART (assisted reproduction technology) lingo. <BR/><BR/>During the IVF (in vitro fertilization) process that resulted in me getting pregnant with the twins, we transferred only two embryos. The rest were frozen. <BR/><BR/>An FET is a frozen embryo transfer, where 1 or 2 of the remaining embryos will be unfrozen and transferred to the surrogate.<BR/><BR/>Since the embryos already exist, we don't have to worry about producing or fertilizing eggs.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08315267454529454063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-40770361123311314652008-03-25T15:00:00.001-04:002008-03-25T15:00:00.001-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Tashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-65377467297640200402008-03-25T15:00:00.000-04:002008-03-25T15:00:00.000-04:00Hey, I'm 5'2" -- so I'll just look right at ya! I...Hey, I'm 5'2" -- so I'll just look right at ya! I find this odd. Even if you told her, "Hey, I don't wanna know sh*t" but then changed your mind and called and whispered "ok, maybe just a few things" I'd think she'd respond? Maybe she's just stressed about the way things are going in the final countdown and doesn't want to call with news in the event it needs postponed? Or something? Just thinking why she'd do this. Have a feeling it's not just universe giving us all the big ol' finger, again.Tashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-99179225216013792008-03-25T14:55:00.000-04:002008-03-25T14:55:00.000-04:00i wonder why she is so reticent to communicate wit...i wonder why she is so reticent to communicate with you. . . what does FET mean? <BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://runningonempty-christine.blogspot.com/" REL="nofollow">Running on empty</A>Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04662448292809451387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-64292984539234644952008-03-25T13:50:00.000-04:002008-03-25T13:50:00.000-04:00Strange. Not necessarily troublesome-strange, but...Strange. Not necessarily troublesome-strange, but still interesting.Clementinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15009377987342028425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-72950047061473446952008-03-25T13:46:00.000-04:002008-03-25T13:46:00.000-04:00I sort of agree with Lori that perhaps a little de...I sort of agree with Lori that perhaps a little detachment (until the "big" result) could be good. After so much time so involved in the minutiae of the reproductive process, maybe it would be nice to suddenly just find out about a pregnancy instead of all the steps leading up to it.<BR/><BR/>But I know I would want to know a lot, myself.Dr. Grumbleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09448780702110352118noreply@blogger.com