tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post5792917515428870348..comments2023-10-22T11:45:23.103-04:00Comments on dead baby jokes: yet another reason why i'm probably not in the running for miss congenialityUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-77251827817449475822008-05-27T14:47:00.000-04:002008-05-27T14:47:00.000-04:00I personally get tired of medical staff asking how...I personally get tired of medical staff asking how many times I have been pregnant, and then getting the follow-up, "Oh, so you have two children at home already?" or something similar.<BR/><BR/>Maybe someone could invent an alert sticker - a big neon warning in front of all charts, "Patient has had ___ pregnancies, with ___ leading to living children."Dr. Grumbleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09448780702110352118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-56157919095500190662008-05-27T12:53:00.000-04:002008-05-27T12:53:00.000-04:00Furrow: I completely agree with you. She really ...Furrow: I completely agree with you. She really was just trying to be nice and it was because I felt sorry for her that I didn't make a big deal out of it and quickly changed the topic.<BR/><BR/>It's a huge HMO and I don't really expect any doctor to rummage through my voluminous records before asking me questions.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-20923990979701900522008-05-27T11:17:00.000-04:002008-05-27T11:17:00.000-04:00I know it's not cool to say so, but I almost feel ...I know it's not cool to say so, but I almost feel a bit sorry for the doctor. If she is not in obstetrics and hasn't been conditioned to anticipate bad outcomes with pregnancies, she would not think to see this coming. I say ALMOST because I really am furious with doctors who have a complete history right in front of them (and they almost always make you fill it out before they'll see you) and then ask the same questions all over again. Perhaps she'll be more attentive next time, and thus, a better doctor to someone else.Furrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617566957749784387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-85112995340582723342008-05-26T21:08:00.000-04:002008-05-26T21:08:00.000-04:00Ouch.Ouch.thricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09528308384855206125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-83401486709705498322008-05-26T11:02:00.000-04:002008-05-26T11:02:00.000-04:00Niobe, you approach things with so much grace and ...Niobe, you approach things with so much grace and wit, with a dark twist. I'm sorry the doctor forced herself into such a corner, but you gave her a reality check I'm sure she'll remember.Ahuva Batyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17432567017520114856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-84608265916409068212008-05-25T14:31:00.000-04:002008-05-25T14:31:00.000-04:00i would love to have been a fly on the wall.i would love to have been a fly on the wall.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04662448292809451387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-60756553021198881482008-05-25T05:44:00.000-04:002008-05-25T05:44:00.000-04:00ouch..that is a pretty... um WOW fade to black mom...ouch..<BR/><BR/>that is a pretty... um WOW fade to black moment.Smilinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13251527394755383001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-52249203012803963822008-05-24T20:38:00.000-04:002008-05-24T20:38:00.000-04:00IMHO,you WERE being nice. What would have been a ...IMHO,you WERE being nice. What would have been a more appropriate answer?<BR/><BR/>If I were nice-knew-doctor I would have followed up with "Do you mind if I ask how that turned out?" And then said "I'm so sorry."Kamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01215000341567119958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-75777438991606733802008-05-24T02:55:00.000-04:002008-05-24T02:55:00.000-04:00Sometimes it feels good (and is just plain fun) to...Sometimes it feels good (and is just plain fun) to be honest and not worry about making other people feel uncomfortable.Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11509124764568535676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-79744166163385743972008-05-24T00:02:00.000-04:002008-05-24T00:02:00.000-04:00I think you'd deserve the award for taking all tha...I think you'd deserve the award for taking all that in stride.NotSoSagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04782162947524115936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-21304350905896582702008-05-23T22:09:00.000-04:002008-05-23T22:09:00.000-04:00Ah, that so reminds me of my Ob/gyn's nurse. I ha...Ah, that so reminds me of my Ob/gyn's nurse. I had miscarried but decided to go to my scheduled pre-natal appointment as it was only a week later. The nurse came into the exam room, "reading" my chart (which included my hospital report from the miscarriage on very top of the stack) and asked for a urine sample and my weight. I told her that I didn't think we needed to do this and she assured me that this is what happens at all pre-natal appointments. I asked her if she noticed in the file she was reading that the babies were all dead. Was I being mean? Maybe. Did I have to pee in a cup and weigh myself? Nope.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-59537437689924526002008-05-23T21:46:00.000-04:002008-05-23T21:46:00.000-04:00Perfectly reasonable answer to a perfectly reasona...Perfectly reasonable answer to a perfectly reasonable question. I can see her now, shuffling through papers, and blushing furiously outside the exam room after she said goodbye.Charlotte's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06664161835198688326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-80874826431165628462008-05-23T20:45:00.000-04:002008-05-23T20:45:00.000-04:00Ha. I can't even imagine the look on her face.Ha. I can't even imagine the look on her face.c.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02933776400434137451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-61990064925926837332008-05-23T13:54:00.000-04:002008-05-23T13:54:00.000-04:00Niobe I think she should have expressed some sort ...Niobe I think she should have expressed some sort of sympathy. Something. Not responding in any way is inappropriate.<BR/>Did she not have your chart or a note from your previous doctor? I don't have any patience for these oversights. It is their job not to walk in and put their foot in their mouth. I think you were very nice in moving the conversation along.<BR/> My own doctor who knows my entire history and the fact that just before my daughter was born my friend's baby died does not know what to say to me when I tell her I am worried about things going wrong in my pregnancy. I think as medical professionals they deal with obstetrics they should be able to respond in a professional manner. <BR/>My daughter's pediatrician, part of the group who had cared for my friend's child who died, always says the right thing. It is partly about training, partly about common decency.moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-27903188384569633062008-05-23T13:44:00.000-04:002008-05-23T13:44:00.000-04:00Perfect reply, absolutely perfect.Perfect reply, absolutely perfect.stat763https://www.blogger.com/profile/17747312345544403441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-89997237532808542332008-05-23T11:08:00.000-04:002008-05-23T11:08:00.000-04:00Nice new doctor made a really big ASSumption.I'm s...Nice new doctor made a really big ASSumption.<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry.beaglehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17627886826215379414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-13886892408365062552008-05-23T11:06:00.000-04:002008-05-23T11:06:00.000-04:00What strikes me here is how ready I've become to r...What strikes me here is how ready I've become to receive the unexpected answer, but how reticent I am IRL, still, to provide it. I admire your honesty.Pamela T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11474998003921896431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-65665284203329555982008-05-23T10:04:00.000-04:002008-05-23T10:04:00.000-04:00I'm sorry you found yourself in that situation. I...I'm sorry you found yourself in that situation. It's amazing how these sort of experiences spill over into completely unrelated situations. I hate being there.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10540060049975721555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-71639798111596924872008-05-23T09:57:00.000-04:002008-05-23T09:57:00.000-04:00This comment really should have gone on your previ...This comment really should have gone on your previous post I guess, but you are an enigma to me. Since last weekend I've been thinking about you often and wondering about you... you seemed so self-contained, and so thoughtful, and since I hadn't read you before I didn't know why.<BR/><BR/>As bits and pieces are being revealed to me through your posts this week I ache for the opportunity lost, to connect with you more.<BR/><BR/>I'm humbled by you.Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15855682469727450176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-24314207278584157062008-05-23T09:46:00.000-04:002008-05-23T09:46:00.000-04:00I gotta admit to LOL!I gotta admit to LOL!katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16536809590856333391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-21026893404823336082008-05-23T09:13:00.000-04:002008-05-23T09:13:00.000-04:00(snicker)Tsk. Tsk. Why must folks always relate th...(snicker)<BR/>Tsk. Tsk. Why must folks always relate things back to themselves through asking YOU questions? Who cares for the small talk anyway?a-https://www.blogger.com/profile/10228242752506448324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-71870025615824744262008-05-23T08:21:00.000-04:002008-05-23T08:21:00.000-04:00heh.what happened after the commercial?doctors can...heh.<BR/>what happened after the commercial?<BR/><BR/>doctors can be idiots often.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-90879544119163925062008-05-23T07:39:00.000-04:002008-05-23T07:39:00.000-04:00i don't think that's mean. it was, sadly, suckily,...i don't think that's mean. it was, sadly, suckily, honest.christina(apronstrings)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11806155985753148490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-69934641203049998952008-05-23T06:56:00.000-04:002008-05-23T06:56:00.000-04:00K@lakly, Aurelia, Painted Maypole, Awake: Really, ...<B>K@lakly, Aurelia, Painted Maypole, Awake</B>: Really, nothing much happened after the fade to black. There was a split second of silence and then we chatted about her part-time schedule and then she took the rest of my medical history. <BR/><BR/>I wasn't in the least upset and I don't think she did anything wrong. She was just being nice. I, however, was not.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-86749758118440653552008-05-23T04:59:00.000-04:002008-05-23T04:59:00.000-04:00wow, Niobe.I also love that comment about your kit...wow, Niobe.<BR/>I also love that comment about your kitchen, as I currently have to take care of mine before the visitors arrive...Ameliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10483756694695666215noreply@blogger.com