tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post6751178635926219973..comments2023-10-22T11:45:23.103-04:00Comments on dead baby jokes: sad mad men terror prove*Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-90579214915215817072007-11-29T09:27:00.000-05:002007-11-29T09:27:00.000-05:00I turn my anger outwards too often. I wish I coul...I turn my anger outwards too often. I wish I could feel more at home in my sadness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-60992006218512588622007-11-28T21:40:00.000-05:002007-11-28T21:40:00.000-05:00I tend to feel anger but I have realised what you ...I tend to feel anger but I have realised what you write here - that it makes me feel powerless. So I am trying to embrace sorrow when it can help me to heal.moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-29271786821059738812007-11-28T17:18:00.000-05:002007-11-28T17:18:00.000-05:00I prefer anger because it's active, and it feels l...I prefer anger because it's active, and it feels like it can have some resolution. But I rarely feel that I deserve to be angry at anyone but myself. And that is always just another face of sadness.Furrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617566957749784387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-35618189460183268702007-11-28T14:24:00.000-05:002007-11-28T14:24:00.000-05:00Anger, I think. When I'm sad, I just want to be le...Anger, I think. When I'm sad, I just want to be left alone. Anger can give me power, though I have to be careful that I use it right.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-29335997654044725322007-11-28T08:20:00.000-05:002007-11-28T08:20:00.000-05:00I find it very difficult to actually feel anger. ...I find it very difficult to actually feel anger. When i do feel it, it is explosive because i have no inner mechanism for dealing with it when it comes so strong. (Hence, breaking dishes & the like). But usually, like you, anger is futile to me. Anger at *what*? My anger will not change anything. <BR/><BR/>I think depression, rather than sadness, is often unexpressed anger. I think many of my own depressions stem from this...katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16536809590856333391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-38256622815420720732007-11-28T01:06:00.000-05:002007-11-28T01:06:00.000-05:00I'm with you. I'd rather ride out sorrow than hav...I'm with you. I'd rather ride out sorrow than have to deal with anger. I'm not good at anger. I'm pretty good at sad.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05528541804521203406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-69955613740380879322007-11-27T19:46:00.000-05:002007-11-27T19:46:00.000-05:00anger is more fleeting to me, something to get out...anger is more fleeting to me, something to get out of one's system. sadness hurts, and is a place where it's easier to become stuck.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01587725139301198392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-9059108467311800342007-11-27T18:11:00.000-05:002007-11-27T18:11:00.000-05:00Sorrow feels like a deep well to fall down.I prefe...Sorrow feels like a deep well to fall down.<BR/><BR/>I prefer angry. Angry makes me realize I need to do something differently. Anger makes me empower myself, change, do differently and work to better.<BR/><BR/>Anger is familiar and comfortable, which is not always a good thing, but I try to make it so.<BR/><BR/>Julie<BR/><A HREF="http://theartfulflower.blogspot.com/" REL="nofollow">Using My Words</A>Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-70418805018215299802007-11-27T18:02:00.000-05:002007-11-27T18:02:00.000-05:00I'd rather be sad.I'm more afraid of my anger than...I'd rather be sad.<BR/>I'm more afraid of my anger than my sadness. Also, after being angry and exploding, I usually feel guilty for the loss of control.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-22087026926954045912007-11-27T17:57:00.000-05:002007-11-27T17:57:00.000-05:00Ahger. Because, as someone else already said, sad...Ahger. Because, as someone else already said, sadness is passive.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14599462281364463565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-86134231471390932212007-11-27T17:16:00.000-05:002007-11-27T17:16:00.000-05:00Anger. As has been said, anger makes me move, do,...Anger. As has been said, anger makes me move, do, act. Yes, there are sometimes casualties, but I prefer it. Sadness is paralyzing. And when it is gone I don't feel any difference in my life. But with anger and action, there is some kind of change.Waiting Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07487061896648183375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-63990221702526769032007-11-27T16:51:00.000-05:002007-11-27T16:51:00.000-05:00I would like anger, please. But that's because I ...I would like anger, please. But that's because I think I might be almost incapable of feeling anger. I do feel incredible guilt though, and perhaps that's anger turned inward?meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00113578396438869433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-28100401258794301332007-11-27T16:47:00.000-05:002007-11-27T16:47:00.000-05:00so odd. I get mad more often - and that seems like...so odd. I get mad more often - and that seems like the cover to me - because when that blows over I discover I am exhausted and lonely - sad, really. I always prefer to have the real feeling over the cover story- no matter which way the wind blows.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09390898429089863816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-50355630485662739432007-11-27T16:20:00.000-05:002007-11-27T16:20:00.000-05:00Anger. (And wow, is this a close vote or what.) ...Anger. (And wow, is this a close vote or what.) Anger can spur me to do something: write a letter, mouth off, make a nasty phone call, scream, run, break. And then I feel a wee bit better. Sadness depletes me of energy and makes me want to do absolutely nothing -- maybe I don't know how to resolve it? So I end up sitting in a puddle of it for a while. I'm not good with sad.Tashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-60113635097936145302007-11-27T16:14:00.000-05:002007-11-27T16:14:00.000-05:00I picked anger too ... like DD said it gets me out...I picked anger too ... like DD said it gets me out of bed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-28313236261624329672007-11-27T16:10:00.000-05:002007-11-27T16:10:00.000-05:00I chose sadness. Anger always seems to backfire -...I chose sadness. Anger always seems to backfire - lashing out at others. Part of the posting from the other day. I can take the lashing out at myself. And if I'm sad, and lashing myself, that means someone else isn't receiving it.Which Boxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14223363075283823935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-42796383879235835162007-11-27T15:20:00.000-05:002007-11-27T15:20:00.000-05:00I chose angry, though I think I am more often sad....I chose angry, though I think I am more often sad. But sad feels more hopeless, like I'm really wanting to just give up. More lonely, somehow. And anger - well, even if my rage is futile, at least I have some kind of idea in my head that some sort of change and forward motion is possible for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-79148057627108042682007-11-27T15:07:00.000-05:002007-11-27T15:07:00.000-05:00My therapist gave me the advice once that since sa...My therapist gave me the advice once that since sadness and anger are often two sides of the same coin, when I am sick of one I can choose the other.<BR/><BR/>Anger at least gets me moving. Sadness leaves me on the couch staring at the wall. Anger can get me out of the house and marching down the street.Kamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01215000341567119958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-33953270481324619282007-11-27T14:49:00.000-05:002007-11-27T14:49:00.000-05:00I went for anger. Sometimes I feel as if I am alwa...I went for anger. Sometimes I feel as if I am always angry at something - perhps I just prefer flailing futilely against the world rather than accepting stuff is the way it is.Betty Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02106396238018550134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-63815367016577395972007-11-27T14:40:00.000-05:002007-11-27T14:40:00.000-05:00anger.for me i can control my anger. direct it. ...anger.<BR/><BR/>for me i can control my anger. direct it. use it to take action, and i am usually pretty good at controlling my anger and not getting irrational.<BR/><BR/>but sorrow--it drowns me.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04662448292809451387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-24018877637292260222007-11-27T14:33:00.000-05:002007-11-27T14:33:00.000-05:00Sadness. For similar reasons to you: sadness is mo...Sadness. For similar reasons to you: sadness is more manageable; it's (for me) a peaceful, still emotion; an emotion you can sit still with. Anger, or in my case choking, desperate rage, is in my case a manifestation of anxiety. It took me years and several bouts of depression to figure this out.elderflowerpresseehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02907237983833742947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-15913414686409973872007-11-27T14:17:00.000-05:002007-11-27T14:17:00.000-05:00I chose sad, but outwardly I would want to project...I chose sad, but outwardly I would want to project mad. In my mind, sad says "Pity me". Mad says "Back off". I would prefer to engage in self-pity, while the world just backs off.c.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02933776400434137451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-73768884403127729982007-11-27T14:09:00.000-05:002007-11-27T14:09:00.000-05:00I'll take anger any day over sadness because it's ...I'll take anger any day over sadness because it's easier to get over. Sadness lingers, anger usually wanes some when you throw things, break things or take it out on other people.Annshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05561673371099391034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-30532079488578939492007-11-27T13:46:00.000-05:002007-11-27T13:46:00.000-05:00I'd rather be sad. Anger makes me feel powerless....I'd rather be sad. Anger makes me feel powerless.<BR/><BR/>(Indidentally, we had "Dr. and Mrs. Vandertramp" as our mnemonic for the etre verbs...we always called them the "Vandertramp" verbs...I'm not kidding you when I tell you that I woke up this morning from a dream of trying to properly conjugate them...perhaps the moon is in some kind of French house today...)LawMommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17772740759391002766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-225058560254819105.post-20947650932215312312007-11-27T13:39:00.000-05:002007-11-27T13:39:00.000-05:00i think i move past sadness more quickly than i ge...i think i move past sadness more quickly than i get past anger, although often they are linked togetherpainted maypolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06446625015003854710noreply@blogger.com