merry-go-round
So it's July all over again. Because this year the Fourth falls so inconveniently in the middle of the week, all the usual events have been rescheduled and everything in town is happening this weekend. A virtual Independence Day, though to satisfy the traditionalists, they're going to have to do the fireworks on Wednesday night too. Everything is just the same as it's always been and the town and the coffeeshop are crowded with tourists.
I buy strawberries and lettuce at the famers' market. I look at the bunting on every window of the courthouse. I wander through the empty carnival grounds taking pictures. Everywhere I go, I can almost catch a glimpse of last summer's self, who couldn't stop talking and smiled at every little girl in a sundress.
This July, in some ways, my mother's house looks just the way I imagined it would. There are baby toys in the back room and a crib in one of the spare bedrooms. My mother's sewing machine is out on the counter. I ask her what she's making. "I'm making curtains for.... I'm making curtains," she says. Then she starts telling me how they've replaced every lightbulb in the house with the new compact florescents and how much they're saving on the electric bill. I take a few more strawberries out of the box and pinch off the leaves. We both know what she was going to say.
16 comments:
I wish this July was different for you.
You take incredible pictures!
Ouch...
I wish we got to know that woman from last summer. I hope one day we get to meet someone sort of like her...
P.S. my word verification is "ghoiyym." Why is that, I wonder.
I too keep thinking, "last summer I...". I wish the seasons didn't have to cycle.
Well my goodness Julia, what to say? Mine's slrxl. No meaning there so far as I know.
One of the hardest periods for me to look back on, is the span of time that came before. Remembering being happy, expectant and pregnant is almost worse then remembering the day we lost them. And it does feel like a different person.
Sorry this July is the way it is and not the way it should have been.
The memories of the happier me are sometimes the hardest thing for me to deal with. I have trouble looking at photos of me from "before". So I think I know what you mean about last summers self.
I wish July was different for you.
I have pictures of me from the summer before I became someone else. Hard to think about, hard to see.
Good on your mother for stopping herself from saying something really bad though. Have to give her props for that.
My word - cnazbm. I must have a snazzy rear end, eh?
lovely picture, heartwrenching reality.
as seems to be the trend, I took a look at my word verification:
deykwusy
wow. There is just nothing PC that I could possibly say about that. But it did make me laugh.
I don't even like seeing photos of myself now and avoid having my picture taken at all costs - I just can't bear to see what I am now compared to who I used to be..
This piece of writing is incredibly beautiful and exquisitely painful.
Thankyou.
I echo ovagirl. Just beautiful.
If you could go back, would you warn that happy self not to be so sure of herself? Or do you just want to wrap her up in your arms?
It is so painful to look back. I know I will never be the me I used to be...but I am not completely without hope that I will be some kind of happy again some day.
Among the many things we lose with infant loss is ourselves. Do we ever get it back or do we just change and become someone else?
I wonder if there is a poem about the months...
What a contrast in photos from the time you first arrived at your mother's....
Making curtains...for making curtains. That broke my heart.
that's tough. and there's no way around it.
those curtains. . .
damn july
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