Tuesday, June 23, 2009

googlies

How did you get here? And by that I mean: what was the google search that brought you to this, my blog? Was it, perhaps, one of the following?

Child is wise beyond her years.



I realize it's likely cold comfort at best, but J doesn't love me either.



Not to out myself as hopelessly vanilla or anything, but I kinda hope that when they say "niobe" they're referring to this lovely, wine-colored clematis.



Have I mentioned lately how much I love my readers?


And, tell me, because I really, really want to know: how did you find this blog in the first place?

67 comments:

Ruby said...

I honestly don't remember, but I'm glad I did.

Tash said...

I stumbled across Mel's list, and clicked according to title: the first was Deadbabyblog, and the second one was yours. I never left. In fact, looking back, I think I even remember the first post of yours I read. It took me a little while to feel brave enough to comment, though.

Kristin said...

Ummmm...I'm honestly not sure what had me click over here for the first time. Maybe something over at Kym's.

Jeannette said...

Google Reader suggested you. The name caught my eye and the writing kept me reading!

gretchen said...

Through pregnancy and infant loss blogrolls. I've had four miscarriages. My first was in February 2005. I found this huge community through the miscarriage forum at Fertility Friend. There was a strangely large group of us who lost our babies within days of each other. Bad times.

I don't know for sure, but I'll say it was Thomas Woz 'Ere ---> Everything's Under Control ---> Certainly Not Cool Enough to Blog ---> No Matter How Small ---> You. This took months and years.

There were many more, lots of overlapping on blogrolls as you know.

The name Dead Baby Jokes intrigued and offended me, so I HAD to see who was behind it. I stayed, because I understood and because I think you are a fantastic writer, photographer, and thinker.

My youngest son was born January 5, 2009, so we have that joy in common, too! :)

angie said...

I wish it was from googling Niobe needs to be tied up, because that sounds like MUCH more fun than how I got here. from Glow in the Woods contributors. You were the first blog I read besides GITW. Well, you and the other contributors, (tash was there too!) and from there, I read others, and then others, and a whole stalk-y lovefest happened. And I can't thank you enough for saving my sanity in those early days and now normalizing my behavior.

Yolanda (the callipygian chronicle) said...

I followed one of your submissions to the themed Wednesday posts that Julie Pippert was doing for a while. I was in the depths of misery at the time, and your raw honesty about your own misery struck a deep cord with me.

BTW, someone recently found their way to my blog via this search:

i have diarrhea and constipation and hate my life and wish for death and think that i should find another way to live

MFA Mama said...

I saw your blog's name in someone's sidebar and was like "this will either be really, really good or really, really offensive" so I clicked.

Hope's Mama said...

i'm not sure, but your blog seemed to be on everyone's blogroll!! and the name had me hooked - i couldn't NOT come and look. then i saw you at glow, and just kept on coming back.

Bon said...

saw you commenting on other sites, though like some of the others, i don't remember quite where.

mcpolish said...

I found you through another friend's blog. I have no idea how she found you, but I remember clicking on the link because when I read the title I was like, "Um, what?" And then I just started reading and couldn't stop. Still can't.

Carrie27 said...

IRL friend of Kym. She got me started with blogging and had me read yours (as it was one of her favorites). Nope, no google searching from me.

N said...

From Glow in the Dark, or somebody's blogroll - I can't quite remember at this point. Obviously I'm quite the loudmouth. ;-)

Hannah said...

Until I met you last year, I hadn't read your blog... I started as soon as that weekend was over, and never looked back.

Angel Mom said...

I really can't remember but my guess would be Ruby.

Aunt Becky said...

Niobe, I have no idea how I know you. Honestly, I don't know. Perhaps we were always friends.

k@lakly said...

The miscarriage/stillbirth site, I think. You had just posted a query on the worst thing a doc said to you and I was in the very early days of this nightmare and was relieved and to finally find a place where others got it. I think yours was the first place I left a comment, ever. And it was because of that post and MAN did I need to say it....so thank you:)

three minute palaver said...

no sure but it was certainly somewhere through the DB blogvine. Maybe you found my blog first (through the db blogvine) and then I came to yours? can't honestly remember it's so long ago...

Magpie said...

You found me first. :)

painted maypole said...

i honestly do not remember.

Lavender Luz said...

I think I saw your name as a commenter and wanted to know more.

I read a book once, Piers Anthony's Incarnations of Immortality: Fate, and the main character was named Niobe.

I think you are fascinating. Your words, your photos, your ideas, and the way you pull people out.

eden said...

I started reading you about a year and a half ago, amazed at your writing and your intelligence and how you think.

Before I added you to my blogroll, I would sometimes google "Dead Baby Jokes" to find you ... and be UTTERLY dismayed and disgusted at what came up.

dj said...

From comments on Duchess blog. People were recommending you, and since then (middle 2007?) dbj has become The Blog, for me. A lot has happened meantime, and dbj is transforming, but, niobe, your words are my daily or so nectar...

Manapan said...

I found you by googling something about dead babies when I was just past my due date and struggling mightily with my shadowbaby niece. Thanks again for the advice you gave me during that time. :)

Smiling said...

I followed a link from Mel to Glow in the Woods and started clicking around there reading the various contributors and liked your photos because it hide so much and revealed so much... and then I jumped into your story midstream from a link there and read your blog forward then backwards one very lonely weekend. I was so glad to find it. Thank you!

Heather said...

I think it was GITW for me.

Beruriah said...

I don't know. Like an old friend or a family member, it's been part of my life for so long I just always remember you being here.

Rory said...

I'm pretty sure it was through Bon's site. I would see "Dead Baby Jokes" in her link list and wonder about it. One day I clicked over and that was it.

Eva said...

Gosh, I don't know, it's been so long!

Alexicographer said...

Ooh, I believe I'm the first who found my way over here from ... I think it was Akeeyu's blog? Someone posted that she had a secret but nothing like Niobe's secret (which linked to the post in which you let your readership know that you have a teenage son). And as with so many others, once I arrived, the writing had me hooked.

Rachel said...

I don't really remember, it was shortly after my miscarriage that I found you. I think it was through the miscarriage/ stillbirth blog directory.

leanne said...

I came to your place from Missed Conceptions. Like others I was intrigued by the blog's name and then by the name you chose for yourself. I liked the community that I found here.

A simple being said...

well ummm lets see, i can't remember i just know that i didnt google, i followed from another blogger who had you listed, i think it was a loss blog though.

charmedgirl said...

it was from the stillbirth blogs directory. i scanned the listing and, i mean, come on! DEAD BABY JOKES?!? sounded exactly like what i needed. in fact, i was thinking the other day about a dead baby monologues (or whatever), and i thought it MUST be called 'dead baby jokes.' very provocative.

and yeah, socks and panties can rot in hell.

Sunny said...

An appropriate question, because I just found your blog and this is my first comment. :)

I noticed your comments on other IF/ALI blogs I read, and thought I would check you out. Glad I'm here, I'll be back!

Aurelia said...

Actually, you found me first, right around the time you started writing, but darned if I know how you found me. (I realized I was on your blogroll because I got hits from statcounter?)

Anyway, I'm very glad I read you now!

thentherewere3 said...

I found you through Glow in the Woods :)

Diana said...

i just clicked over from another blog, awful but functioning, and just kept reading. thats all. i have never commented before. but i like your writing.

Anonymous said...

I saw your comments at apronstrings. At first I was put off by your blog's name but your comments seemed insightful. And here I am @2 years. I laerned never to judge a blog by it's name. 'Course I only really read yours and Christina's.
allypally

loribeth said...

I've been reading you for 1.5-2 years. I think I found you on someone else's blogroll. With names like Dead Baby Jokes & Niobe, who wouldn't be curious?

Bluebird said...

Man, I wish my blog had interesting googlies like that; I never get to have any of the fun.

That said, um. . . . no idea how I got here. I think it was about the time your sweet baby was born, though, and I remember being a little confused about your history and unsure whether I would stick around (as I limit my reading of baby blogs). I was sold after I pieced together more of your backstory (twins, pre-e, surro).

Hennifer said...

I'm not sure, I know it wasn't by way of google.

The first blog I stumbled across regarding loss was Birdie's Mama, everyone else from there was just puddle jumps.

It has been a life changing journey for sure.

I thank you all!

Trish said...

I found your blog from Kym's blog list.

Cheek said...

It was through the baby loss directory - I loved your blog name.

Betty M said...

Came via Thalia's blog.

Anonymous said...

After my daughter died I began obsessively prowling the Internet looking for people with stories similar to mine. She was my first child, and I desperately longed to know that there were other childless mothers out there.

One morning when my husband and I were in bed watching brainless TV, there was a program (I think it was something on VH1) that mentioned that some years back "Dead Baby Jokes" were really popular. They even read some out loud on this program, and I was sickened and brokenhearted.

So, when I first noticed the name of your blog in a blogroll, I was horrified. I had the same visceral response to it that I had when I heard the jokes on TV. But I kept noticing your name in the blogs of the babylost, and I finally got up the courage to take a look at what you had to say.

Then you led me to Glow in the Woods, and for that I thank you.

Furrow said...

I'm pretty sure I found you through Mel's blog. A roundup, I think. It was a post title "12 weeks" and it was about your friend who had made it there and was relieved at the milestone. You reflected on your own perfect 12 week ultrasound and how it didn't guarantee anything. I was 12 weeks along. It was a while before I commented because I didn't feel I had the right. I didn't want the right.

blueeyedtawni said...

its been such a long time. but i clicked from a blog of a friend to another link LOL..and was hooked :)
hugs

NellaBean said...

via Glow in the Woods via Sweet/Salty

Virginia said...

Stillbirth blog directory. I mean, with a name like Dead Baby Jokes? How could I not click? And I was all prepared to hate you, just based on the blog name alone, but discovered you are a marvelous writer, and I was hooked.

Dayna said...

I found you through Cecily (Uppercase Woman.)

Cynthia said...

via GITW via Sweet/Salty via SweetJuniper

Which Box said...

I think it was the stillbirth directory page. I found you early, one of the first I read. I know you backdated posts when you first started, let's see my loss was in early February 07, so I probably found you soon after you went live, late February or early March? I like mythology, so I keyed on Niobe, not on the dead baby jokes name. Hmm, now I wonder how you found me. I think once I figured out a blog name and started, I started commenting.

quadelle said...

It was either Bon's list or comments in the last four or five months (I'm new to blog land). I clicked and stayed. You intrigue me.

I've only ever had two people find my blog via searches that did not include my name - one about old Melbourne trams, another about "mini home maker". I was clearly NOT what they were looking for.

flutter said...

I do believe I spied on you from Bon :)

Deshaine said...

My IRL friend blogs here: http://p1p3r-p1p3r.blogspot.com/

She follows this her:
http://smartone.typepad.com/smartone/

She follows you.

Can you see the underlying theme? It's wit. I find each of you witty.

Karen said...

up, you commented somewhere - maybe it was bub and pie? long, long ago when I thought there were like 15 o 16 blogs out there in the world and everyone seemed to know each other but me.
Still feel like that, but now realize that there are millions and millions of blogs out there.

Melissa said...

I read comments on a friend's blog, then went to the blog of the commenter. Repeat 3-4 times, and I wound up here.

I've never experienced the type of loss that you and many others here have, and I suppose that makes me a bit of an outsider, in that respect.

However, I love your writing and your photos, so here I am.

Kymberli said...

Somehow I missed this post. I found you through Cycle Sistas. I think it was February of last year when I was gearing up for my first cycle with Mia and Urs. I noticed that you were on the list as cycling with a GS and being a GS myself, I clicked over to read about your journey. I ended up reading your entire blog from start to finish over the course of that weekend.

Anonymous said...

Glow in the Woods....and your blog title in the contributors list

melka said...

I found you in someone else's blogroll, though I can't remember whose. Like others, I was disturbed and intrigued by the title - but in a hopeful, 'i think i might like this person' kinda way. Which was very much the case.

Allie said...

A blogroll, somewhere. And I've been lurrking all this time. :)

Allie

niobe said...

Thanks for de-lurking, Allie.

Peachy said...

Glow in the Woods, I think. And yes, I lurk around here constantly.

docgrumbles said...

If I remember correctly, I saw a snarky or dark comment on someone else's blog and decided I had to check out the commenter.

Karen said...

Fairly sure I found you linked from Raspberry Chip.

Sarah said...

I don't remember how I found you. It very definitely was not "child cannot stand to wear underwear or socks." Aunt Becky perhaps? Or the deadbaby list...