commuting
Driving home in the dark, the radio on, the baby asleep in the back seat is when I think about, well, things. And what I was thinking about tonight was this: I've done a lot of really stupid things in my life. And (in what would be a substantially, but not completely overlapping circle in a Venn diagram) I've done a lot of things that I'm very sorry I did. And most of them were the direct and wholly foreseeable result of saying maybe when I should have said no
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Yes.
Adding that learning to say no to others (and myself) is an extremely valuable skill to possess. Unfortunately, it is intermittent.
Shit, I have years of my life when I should gone with maybe. Would've saved a lot of people (me, really) a lot of time and trouble.
I tend to have the opposite problem. I'm really good at no and terrible at maybe.
This post also reminded me that I have a semi-hilarious story about a room full of 8th grade boys and a Venn diagram gone horribly wrong...a minor regret but a regret all the same.
Commuting does give you time to think about things, doesn't it?
My problem is sort of the opposite...my life is so tame because I say no instead of maybe.
I do too much yes. Wearing me down.
I TOTALLY get that.
I spent my youth saying, "Sure. Why not? Might make a good story one day." Now, I spend my old age realizing I cannot tell half of the sordid stories that sprang from those why nots. *sigh*
maybe is what you say when you're trying to please someone by not saying no.
oh, yes. this resonates hugely with me. as does magpie's comment.
I need to learn to be better at saying no.
Excellent point.. I regret the maybes, only the yes that were coerced out of maybes, and very few nos. I'm getting better and better and knowing if it is a yes or no, and maybe one day I can consistently speak my own truth.
thanks for getting me thinking.
I'm not very good at saying "no" too. I wish were more assertive sometimes.
Magpie: So very true. And the person I was mostly trying to please was myself.
@TracieOC: And, after that tantalizing intro, you're going to tell us the story, aren't you? How about if I say pretty please?
What Magpie said.
Learning to say no instead of maybe made my thirties much more enjoyable.
@Angie I am right there with you.
One of the nice things about getting on in years is that it gets easier to say no... because we've learnt from our maybes.
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Oh that commute, I do a lot of thinking during it as well. And mostly dark thoughts.
I am shocking at saying no, but I'm learning.
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