a man, a plan, a canal*
I just spoke to Sean, one of the coordinators at an agency that helps match people with gestational carriers. I get the impression that a lot of their clients are gay men for whom, in many states, it's legally much easier to work with a gestational carrier than it is to adopt.
The conversation centered around what kind of qualities/attributes I was looking for and what things I just wouldn't be able to accept. I'm really not too picky. All I want is someone who's delivered at least one healthy child, who hasn't had trouble getting pregnant and who doesn't have a history of losses. And, of course, someone who can be trusted not to do anything potentially harmful during the pregnancy. That's really about it.
I'm happy to have a open or quasi-open relationship with the gc after the baby is born -- if that's what's she wants. If she'd rather not see the baby or would just like an occasional letter or picture, that's fine with me too.
Surprisingly, Sean told me that, because of my openness to various types of gcs, I would be at the top of their list and would probably get a list of potential gcs in the very near future -- perhaps as soon as next week. Of course, there's no guarantee that the gc would actually get pregnant or would give birth to a healthy child.
However, there seems to be a strange new light shining through my window. Could it be a glimmer of hope?
*Oh, and sorry about the title. I just couldn't resist.
